Laugh, Love, and Grow: The Role of Humor in a Christ-Centered Marriage

As a Christian mother of three adult children, a military wife, and the CEO of a Virtual Assistant Agency in Healthcare Administration, life has thrown my husband and me plenty of curveballs. From raising kids to handling military deployments to managing the stress of running a business, it’s been a journey filled with highs and lows. But one thing that has carried us through, time and time again, is humor. In our marriage, laughter has been like a balm, helping us grow closer and lean into God’s grace, even in the toughest moments.

God’s Gift of Joy

Proverbs 17:22 says, "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." This verse has become a favorite of mine because it reminds me that God created laughter as a source of joy and healing. While we often think of marriage as serious business—and it is—God also calls us to embrace joy in our relationships. 

In our marriage, humor has helped lighten the load. When my husband is deployed, there are moments when the loneliness feels overwhelming, and I find myself taking everything too seriously. But a silly text, an inside joke, or even a shared meme helps break the tension and reminds me that we don’t have to carry the weight of life alone. Laughter connects us, even from miles apart, and helps us remember that God designed marriage to be enjoyed, not just endured.

Finding Joy in the Everyday

One of the most important lessons we’ve learned over the years is that humor doesn’t have to be reserved for special occasions. It can be found in everyday moments—like the time my husband and I tried to put together a piece of furniture and ended up laughing at how badly we messed it up. Or the playful banter over who’s going to do the dishes. These moments, while small, add up. They create memories that remind us not to take ourselves too seriously.

In a world where stress and pressure are constant companions—especially in the military and business worlds—it’s easy to let the weight of responsibility overshadow joy. But we’ve found that humor is a way to fight back against the daily grind. It helps us stay connected and keeps our marriage from feeling like just another task to manage.

Laughter as a Tool for Growth

Humor isn’t just about having fun—it’s also a tool for growth. When we’re able to laugh together, even in challenging times, it breaks down barriers and opens the door for vulnerability. There have been times in our marriage when we were facing difficult issues, and humor helped us step back, see the bigger picture, and approach each other with grace. It’s hard to hold onto anger when you’re laughing together, and often, laughter leads to deeper conversations and healing.

Humor has also taught us to let go of perfectionism. As a business owner, I’m used to having control, but in marriage, things aren’t always neat and tidy. Laughter reminds us that it’s okay to be imperfect. God’s grace covers our messiness, and when we can laugh at ourselves, it’s easier to extend that grace to each other.

A Christ-Centered Joy

In a Christ-centered marriage, laughter is more than just a pleasant addition—it’s a reflection of God’s joy and a reminder of His presence in our lives. By choosing to laugh, love, and grow together, we honor the gift of joy He’s given us. No matter what life throws our way, humor helps us stay connected, deepen our love, and navigate the ups and downs with grace.

So, if you haven’t already, I encourage you to bring more laughter into your marriage. After all, a cheerful heart truly is good medicine, and it just might be what helps you grow closer to God and each other.

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